The misconception about the benefit of the doubt

When you give someone “the benefit of the doubt”, the notion that you’re “giving” something makes it sound generous.

When the person that you gave the benefit of the doubt to succeeds, it feels like a reward for trusting your good-natured instincts.

However, when they don’t succeed, you can blame the outcome on these very same instincts.

It’s obviously not great that the situation didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to, but it’s not quite as bad as feeling like you made the wrong decision — you were trying to be a “good” person.

However, other people who might have been in your situation might not have had any benefit of the doubt to give.

Someone else might have had a better decision making process, or have had more education around the situation, or reached out to others that can help them.

Maybe you are being generous…

Or maybe you’re relying on an excuse that you’re a “good” person.

Maybe you could be doing more to remove some of that doubt.