Sometimes it’s like a reaction to correct other people.
It sounds very negative. But you’re only doing it because you want them to be better.
You want to help.
Altruism isn’t quite as simple as following your instincts, though.
No one likes to be corrected.
Being corrected means that you did something wrong and as soon as you even mention that to someone else, their instinctual response is rarely positive.
Nonetheless, you do want to help, so how do you flip the script?
What if, instead of giving them your critique, how could you ask them what they think they could improve?
How can you set them a challenge that they can win at instead of showing them why they’ve failed?